A lot has happened this week!
A video trailer for my 1st book has been released! Watch it here:
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As if that wasn’t enough excitement for the week, my first ever print books have been delivered!
Order your copy at http://www.bit.ly/VikingNotPC
I’ve recorded the opening of the box and my first ever view of the book in print. Watch it here:
Years ago, I came to a realization. As a young girl, I had grown up constantly looking for my Prince Charming to come and whisk me away from all of my troubles. It was this mindset that stopped me from accepting the one man God had for me as he was. I had to stop looking to my husband to be my Prince Charming and start realizing that not only was he a Viking fighting the battle of life but actually join him in the battle of life.
Out of that realization came these stories that I’m publishing now:
Book 1 – Choose Your Viking is the story of a modern maiden who learned that she needed a Viking in the battle of life instead of a prince on a white horse. But not just any Viking would do…Available today in eBook format and will be coming soon in print.
Book 2 – Viking Battle Heart is the story of that same modern maiden as she becomes a woman, fighting to keep not only her marriage together but also to ensure her family thrives in a world that is constantly fighting against them. Release date to be announced soon!
Book 3 – Know Your Viking is the story of that same modern woman learning to look beyond herself and into the heart of her Viking as he prepares for battles they didn’t expect. Release date to be announced soon!
It is my hope that these books will encourage you, motivate you and inspire you to dig your feet in to fulfill your calling and fight the battle of life with all that you are.
It was the end of the day.. A Wednesday in fact.. I laid my head down on my pillow and sighed…
It had been a long day.. Only it was like every other day these past few months.
I had plenty of reasons to whine, cry and sulk.. I was maybe even justified to list in my head all of the reasons I was tired of being tired..
I won’t go into all of the reasons or even all of the pain because it does not matter. I could have curled up in a ball and cried myself to sleep..
or I could have lashed out at my loved ones as if they were to blame.
I could have even melted away, resolved that it would never go away and it would always be this way. There were so many options.
I was tempted… Tempted to do it all.. To give up and stop fighting, stop striving for better. Just to melt against the pressure.
Have you ever been there? Does it ever feel like it’s too much? Too much stress, too much work, too much money…. And the list goes on.
Guess what? You aren’t alone.. God sees your pain, your struggles and even your desire to make it all go away.
Did you know that a pearl would not be a pearl without irritation and pain? The irritation of the sand coupled with the pain in the muscle are what turns a piece of ugliness into something beautiful.
I share this with you not to debate why bad things happen to good people but to give you hope and strength:
Hope that you are not alone.
Hope that you can trust God and His plans.
Strength to make it thru this trial..
And even strength to make it thru today.
Now that you have the hope and the strength, I want to encourage you to find a mentor, a friend or family member who you can trust to pray for you when it’s dark all around you…to hug you when you are stressing out and to shower you with memories of when good things happened.. You will overcome as long as you continue on.
If you are even remotely like me, you likely convinced yourself to put off today what could be done tomorrow..
You may found yourself thinking things like:
My favorite one though that my self talk likes to use is:
“Tomorrow, I’ll have plenty of time to address this when… (Wait for it).. My mind is clear.”
At which point I have 2 choices
All of these questions help me to re-focus my mind and my body but there is more to it.
In the book Eat that frog by Brian Tracy, he talks about attacking the hardest things first… The biggest baddest task on your list.. Stop putting it off.
This is true but I struggle in that arena because I fail to make lists on a regular basis.. I DO have a list but it’s all in my head and rarely organized..
A couple of years ago though, I found a book called Self Discipline in 10 days.. I didn’t want to read it but decided I should.
What I found in this book was that we must convince our self conscious to do what we want it to do and not allow it to control our bodies… The author suggested using arm motions and speaking aloud what we were going to do as well as changing our choice of words.
I thought he was a tad bit crazy until I put it in acrion.. At the time I was completing my MBA and I had a slew of homework in addition to the kids needs and the housework.. I was exhausted due to the long week at work and just didn’t want to do a thing. (or so I thought)
So jokingly I sat up straight on the couch, swung my arm in a decisive swing and said “I WILL get my homework done so I can spend some time with the kids.”
Wouldn’t you know I got that homework done AND got the housework done and even got to spend some time with the kids.
From then on, I’ve learned that not only do I need to make a list, tackling the biggest ones first, I also need to control my self talk. Don’t believe me? Try it. I dare you.. 😉
Today I met a mom who is raising her son alone.. Her husband left the country, abandoning her, literally leaving her with so much debt it is overwhelming.
Yesterday, I met a mom who left her husband, the father of two precious children, because he was dealing drugs behind closed doors.
Last week, I met a mom who’s husband left them with no food or water and no means of support while he was in search of work in another state.
Sill another mom, happily married struggled to find peace with herself after gaining weight and disliking who she had become.
And before that? I met a single lady who desires to be loved but, having struggled to find a man who is willing to commit, she struggles.
The stories continue as I continue to meet these women.. Each has their unique struggles yet, what do they have in common?
What you can’t see here is that each of these ladies is determined.. Their focus is not on the pain they feel but the goal and the hope that exists within them.. They are in it for the long haul, moving mountains, breaking molds and thriving..
You see, they have realized they DO have what it takes to makeethe most out of life… Was it easy? Not at all.. Are they exhausted? Absolutely! Do they know where they are going or what they need to do next? Not always.. But they keep on moving forward..
Each one of these ladies reminds me that life isn’t easy but if we keep moving forward, keep making the best of a horrible situation, keep striving for excellence, we eventually see bits of success.
You see, the differrence between a successful person and one who is not has little to do with the situations life presents each of us but has everything to do with our attitude in the moment. Sometimes this means looking for the spec of light when the room appears pitch black.. Or taking a step in the direction you know is right when the way is not too clear. Sometimes it means defining your goals and making a plan to get there…
Whatever it is, you CAN do it.. You’ve got what it takes…you just have to believe it’s true.
Living in this world isn’t always all Hollywood glamour and glitz. Sometimes …no most often, life isn’t anything like the glamour and glitz you see in Hollywood or even read in books. As a little girl in fact, even though my childhood was relatively uneventful compared to yours (I’m sure), my childhood did have it’s struggles. I was raised in by two very loving Christian parents who attempted to shield me from the evils of the world while attempting to teach me how to be light in this pained world. Trouble was, I didn’t understand the pain others had and I didn’t understand that those who weren’t Christians wouldn’t understand me. So, when the kids teased me for how I dressed (modestly) or how my hair was (permed) or how I did my makeup (oddly) or how I walked (slightly toed in) or well, you get the picture…it literally felt like EVERYTHING I did was subpar. Unless I spoke to the teachers. The teachers often told me how special I was, how smart I was and how much I had to offer the world. This was complicated even more when the only feellow student who had been nice to me in my class was killed when a hole he dug collapsed on him.
It was then that I found that if I ignored the kids and focused on what I needed to do in school, I could function..no..actually excel…Except this made some of the other children jealous or spiteful or…well..whatever it was. They chose to single me out. Even to the point of dealing with a kid who decided it would be fun to terrorize me. Terrorize me she did. To make matters worse, I found a place that was new and offered me something to focus on besides school…I found band. As you might imagine, this was not a popular move. All of this was before I even hit middle school..
You remember middle school? Well, my middle school was located at a high school. So, as a 7th grader, I shared the campus with 9th – 12th graders. The middle school band was small but the high school band was smaller. So, the band teacher combined them into one to create a marching band.I had some fun in those days even though I didn’t fit anywhere other than band though I loved my studies and I loved my teachers.
Yes, throughout those days, i had friends but those friends came and went as I tried to find my way. Some I thought would be friends for life, others took me off my path for a time. I would occasionally wake up and find my way again. I struggled with all the things you struggled with all the things you normally struggle with as a teenager. Self acceptance, peer acceptance, my studies, the desire to have fun, the desire to be loved and even the need for a savior. Oh don’t get me wrong, I was saved but I questioned it regularly. It was then that I started getting sick. I missed a lot of school and went to a lot of doctors. They eventually decided I needed surgery. It was my junior year and my focus on school was distracted. I didn’t want to go. I had no desire to go back, to give it my all. I was tired and saw no fruits from my labors. high school seemed stupid to me.
It was then that I was accepted into the local community college in a dual credit program. I even got engaged. I though that was it – I had found love, I had found a desire to please a man. One would think this was it…my path had been set. Engaged to be married, high school behind me and college ahead of me.
The saying now is why buy the cow when the millk is free. hmmm Yes. I suppose that is the truth. As I look back, I can see that this was the most likely reason why I wasn’t destined to marry this fellow….though the fact that he did not like any of my friends, that he was much older than me, that I was naieve, young and immature had a lot to do with it. I allowed myself to give away that which should ahve been more precious to me than the apparent love of a boy. I thought the ring on my finger gave me all I needed. That it meant success and an answer to my dreams. In truth, it was just the beginning of a life that would be full of heart break and hope, ups and downs, losses and triumphs, joys and saddness. Is it over yet? Not even close. Have I gotten where I’m meant to be? No. I continue to strive for more.
You should too. Why? you ask. Well..
I tell you all of this not to scare you or depress you but to encourage you. Encourage you to do more than accept status quo. To encourage you to life a full life. To encourage you that you have what it takes to be more than you are today. To embrace your potential, your belief and your calling and do more.
Why? Why would you do that? Because you were made for more. You don’t exist here on earth to be born, learn, fall in love and have kids which you will raise and then watch them have grandkids. While all of that is great, you were born for more. You were born for greatness….excellence…no even to save lives through your excellence.
Oh I hear your questions. I hear your How’s, your Why’s, your What’s. I had them too. But the answer, you see, is to just DO. Do what you know you must. Do more than what you are doing now. Yes, you heard me get up and do.
So what is it you are going to do this week? If not, what is stopping you? How can I help you get to where you CAN do it?