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Renewing Your Viking

These past few weeks, I’ve been working on a little journal for married women.

The journal is presenting some technical issues prior to release but I’m so excited about it that I’m determined to work through those technical issues to get this journal released asap.

Why?  What is in this little journal that makes me so excited?

Nearly every week, I meet a woman who wishes she had married a Viking instead of the prince charming she thought she married.  I try to sit with each one of these women I meet and go through a process I’ve developed to help them find their love again but, so often, I just don’t get the option to walk them through this process completely.  In addition, I’ve learned that, while the process helps, they need to put the concepts into action in order for them to get the full effect.  Renewing Your Viking is a small journal which allows them to do just that…I’m so excited!


Author in Business Book Tour





If money was not a barrier, I’d travel to every part of the world, sitting down with each of you to encourage and inspire you to see the world as an open book waiting for you to fill the pages.

If time was not a barrier, I’d  walk with you on your journey as your own personal cheerleader, cheering you on every step of the way.   I’d help you see the positive of the battle you are facing currently.  I’d help you to see you can get past this horrible tragedy. I’d walk with you day by day, framing your experiences of the day in a positive light.

If physics was not a barrier, I’d sit on your shoulder whispering God’s promises in your ear so you would never forget how much He loves you even when it feels like life is out to get you.

However, the truth is money, time and physics are all barriers to my desires.  This, however, doesn’t stop me from trying.  It is largely why I wrote Choose Your Viking and why I continue to write my books.  You see I cannot physically meet each of you or sit on your shoulder or spend personal time coaching each of you but I can write my books, put them out there and share them with you.

It is also why I am honored to be  part of the Author in Business Book Tour and am begging you to come.  It isn’t often that you can actually have personal time with authors who write their books.  This is an exclusive moment for you to listen to, speak with and be inspired by some amazing authors who feel the same way I do.  They want to invest in you!  So, what are you waiting for? Register today for the AIB book tour!  It’s tomorrow, January 14th at 3pm to the Microsoft store in the Houston Galleria mall.  Register at  Space is limited to be sure to register immediately.

If you aren’t available but know people nearby, please feel free to share.

While you’re at it, let me know you are coming!  I want to be watching for you!

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Choose Your Viking

Choose Your Viking and the series, “My Viking Is Not Your Prince Charming” has a dream.

It’s dream?  To ignite the people of today to be who they were called to be.  To stop waiting for life to show them what they are supposed to do, to stop waiting for the door to open and the red carpet to be rolled out, to grab hold of their destiny and start investing in their world.

You see, too often, we are taught to fit into a mold.  Yet, we do not realize that that mold is not for everyone.  Life is not just about going to school and getting a degree so you can make a living.  You are here on this earth for a purpose…to love others, to invest in others, to invent something that changes the world or to share a story that changes the lives of others.

Whatever your purpose, stop waiting for someone to show you the way and take the first step.

Don’t let your past define you.  Don’t let the unknown stop you.  Don’t let the world tell you why you are here.  Only you and God can determine that together (p.s.  He already knows).  Has he told you what your first step is?  Is there a dream within your heart you know you must fulfill?  What is the first step to fulfilling that dream?  What must you do today that cannot wait?  I know it is there.  You just have to look for it.

You were born for more than this.

I was tempted….

It was the end of the day.. A Wednesday in fact.. I laid my head down on my pillow and sighed…

It had been a long day.. Only it was like every other day these past few months.

I had plenty of reasons to whine, cry and sulk.. I was maybe even justified to list in my head all of the reasons I was tired of being tired..

I won’t go into all of the reasons or even all of the pain because it does not matter. I could have curled up in a ball and cried myself to sleep..

or I could have lashed out at my loved ones as if they were to blame.

I could have even melted away, resolved that it would never go away and it would always be this way. There were so many options.

I was tempted… Tempted to do it all.. To give up and stop fighting, stop striving for better. Just to melt against the pressure.

Have you ever been there? Does it ever feel like it’s too much? Too much stress, too much work, too much money…. And the list goes on.

Guess what? You aren’t alone.. God sees your pain, your struggles and even your desire to make it all go away.

Did you know that a pearl would not be a pearl without irritation and pain? The irritation of the sand coupled with the pain in the muscle are what turns a piece of ugliness into something beautiful.

I share this with you not to debate why bad things happen to good people but to give you hope and strength:

Hope that you are not alone.

Hope that you can trust God and His plans.

Strength to make it thru this trial..

And even strength to make it thru today.

Now that you have the hope and the strength, I want to encourage you to find a mentor, a friend or family member who you can trust to pray for you when it’s dark all around you…to hug you when you are stressing out and to shower you with memories of when good things happened.. You will overcome as long as you continue on.

Tomorrow is not today.

If you are even remotely like me, you likely convinced yourself to put off today what could be done tomorrow..

You may found yourself thinking things like:

  • I got a lot done already today…
  • I’m oh so tired..
  • I deserve a break

My favorite one though that my self talk likes to use is:

“Tomorrow, I’ll have plenty of time to address this when… (Wait for it).. My mind is clear.”

At which point I have 2 choices

  1. Believe it and attempt nothing.
  2. Or ask myself ‘oh really though? Will your mind be any clearer tomorrow really? Will you be any less tired? What will come up tomorrow to encourage you to avoid it then too? ‘

All of these questions help me to re-focus my mind and my body but there is more to it.

In the book Eat that frog by Brian Tracy, he talks about attacking the hardest things first… The biggest baddest task on your list.. Stop putting it off.

This is true but I struggle in that arena because I fail to make lists on a regular basis.. I DO have a list but it’s all in my head and rarely organized..

A couple of years ago though, I found a book called Self Discipline in 10 days.. I didn’t want to read it but decided I should.

What I found in this book was that we must convince our self conscious to do what we want it to do and not allow it to control our bodies… The author suggested using arm motions and speaking aloud what we were going to do as well as changing our choice of words.

I thought he was a tad bit crazy until I put it in acrion.. At the time I was completing my MBA and I had a slew of homework in addition to the kids needs and the housework.. I was exhausted due to the long week at work and just didn’t want to do a thing. (or so I thought)

So jokingly I sat up straight on the couch, swung my arm in a decisive swing and said “I WILL get my homework done so I can spend some time with the kids.”

Wouldn’t you know I got that homework done AND got the housework done and even got to spend some time with the kids.

From then on, I’ve learned that not only do I need to make a list, tackling the biggest ones first, I also need to control my self talk. Don’t believe me? Try it. I dare you.. 😉

You CAN do it

Today I met a mom who is raising her son alone.. Her husband left the country, abandoning her, literally leaving her with so much debt it is overwhelming.

Yesterday, I met a mom who left her husband, the father of two precious children, because he was dealing drugs behind closed doors.

Last week, I met a mom who’s husband left them with no food or water and no means of support while he was in search of work in another state.

Sill another mom, happily married struggled to find peace with herself after gaining weight and disliking who she had become.

And before that? I met a single lady who desires to be loved but, having struggled to find a man who is willing to commit, she struggles.

The stories continue as I continue to meet these women.. Each has their unique struggles yet, what do they have in common?

What you can’t see here is that each of these ladies is determined.. Their focus is not on the pain they feel but the goal and the hope that exists within them.. They are in it for the long haul, moving mountains, breaking molds and thriving..

You see, they have realized they DO have what it takes to makeethe most out of life… Was it easy? Not at all.. Are they exhausted? Absolutely! Do they know where they are going or what they need to do next? Not always.. But they keep on moving forward..

Each one of these ladies reminds me that life isn’t easy but if we keep moving forward, keep making the best of a horrible situation, keep striving for excellence, we eventually see bits of success.

You see, the differrence between a successful person and one who is not has little to do with the situations life presents each of us but has everything to do with our attitude in the moment. Sometimes this means looking for the spec of light when the room appears pitch black.. Or taking a step in the direction you know is right when the way is not too clear. Sometimes it means defining your goals and making a plan to get there…

Whatever it is, you CAN do it.. You’ve got what it takes…you just have to believe it’s true.


Go Do!

Living in this world isn’t always all Hollywood glamour and glitz. Sometimes …no most often, life isn’t anything like the glamour and glitz you see in Hollywood or even read in books. As a little girl in fact, even though my childhood was relatively uneventful compared to yours (I’m sure), my childhood did have it’s struggles. I was raised in by two very loving Christian parents who attempted to shield me from the evils of the world while attempting to teach me how to be light in this pained world. Trouble was, I didn’t understand the pain others had and I didn’t understand that those who weren’t Christians wouldn’t understand me. So, when the kids teased me for how I dressed (modestly) or how my hair was (permed) or how I did my makeup (oddly) or how I walked (slightly toed in) or well, you get the picture…it literally felt like EVERYTHING I did was subpar. Unless I spoke to the teachers. The teachers often told me how special I was, how smart I was and how much I had to offer the world. This was complicated even more when the only feellow student who had been nice to me in my class was killed when a hole he dug collapsed on him.
It was then that I found that if I ignored the kids and focused on what I needed to do in school, I could excel…Except this made some of the other children jealous or spiteful or…well..whatever it was. They chose to single me out. Even to the point of dealing with a kid who decided it would be fun to terrorize me. Terrorize me she did. To make matters worse, I found a place that was new and offered me something to focus on besides school…I found band. As you might imagine, this was not a popular move. All of this was before I even hit middle school..
You remember middle school? Well, my middle school was located at a high school. So, as a 7th grader, I shared the campus with 9th – 12th graders. The middle school band was small but the high school band was smaller. So, the band teacher combined them into one to create a marching band.I had some fun in those days even though I didn’t fit anywhere other than band though I loved my studies and I loved my teachers.
Yes, throughout those days, i had friends but those friends came and went as I tried to find my way. Some I thought would be friends for life, others took me off my path for a time. I would occasionally wake up and find my way again. I struggled with all the things you struggled with all the things you normally struggle with as a teenager. Self acceptance, peer acceptance, my studies, the desire to have fun, the desire to be loved and even the need for a savior. Oh don’t get me wrong, I was saved but I questioned it regularly. It was then that I started getting sick. I missed a lot of school and went to a lot of doctors. They eventually decided I needed surgery. It was my junior year and my focus on school was distracted. I didn’t want to go. I had no desire to go back, to give it my all. I was tired and saw no fruits from my labors. high school seemed stupid to me.
It was then that I was accepted into the local community college in a dual credit program. I even got engaged. I though that was it – I had found love, I had found a desire to please a man. One would think this was it…my path had been set. Engaged to be married, high school behind me and college ahead of me.
The saying now is why buy the cow when the millk is free. hmmm Yes. I suppose that is the truth. As I look back, I can see that this was the most likely reason why I wasn’t destined to marry this fellow….though the fact that he did not like any of my friends, that he was much older than me, that I was naieve, young and immature had a lot to do with it. I allowed myself to give away that which should ahve been more precious to me than the apparent love of a boy. I thought the ring on my finger gave me all I needed. That it meant success and an answer to my dreams. In truth, it was just the beginning of a life that would be full of heart break and hope, ups and downs, losses and triumphs, joys and saddness. Is it over yet? Not even close. Have I gotten where I’m meant to be? No. I continue to strive for more.
You should too. Why? you ask. Well..
I tell you all of this not to scare you or depress you but to encourage you. Encourage you to do more than accept status quo. To encourage you to life a full life. To encourage you that you have what it takes to be more than you are today. To embrace your potential, your belief and your calling and do more.
Why? Why would you do that? Because you were made for more. You don’t exist here on earth to be born, learn, fall in love and have kids which you will raise and then watch them have grandkids. While all of that is great, you were born for more. You were born for greatness….excellence…no even to save lives through your excellence.
Oh I hear your questions. I hear your How’s, your Why’s, your What’s. I had them too. But the answer, you see, is to just DO. Do what you know you must. Do more than what you are doing now. Yes, you heard me get up and do.
So what is it you are going to do this week? If not, what is stopping you? How can I help you get to where you CAN do it?

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