Melissa Ruth

Committed to helping others fulfill their calling and find their purpose in life.

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MADE for Change!

Some time ago, a friend asked me to prepare a speech on adapting to change we didn’t want.

I had intended on presenting that speech at a TEDx style talk but that didn’t happen.

However, the response to my speech was unanimous – every single person who heard it exclaimed how much it helped them in THEIR moment and they did not even know they needed it.

This book, MADE for change, came from that speech.

Every single one of us is presented at some time with change we didn’t want.

We lose a job, we are transferred to a city we don’t like, we lose a spouse or a friend or a colleague, we are told our health is not the way we want it.

So many of these things can keep us down if we let it.  We might blame ourselves or others while sitting in the dark, waiting for the change we didn’t want to go away.

You may have heard it said, “When life gives us lemons, we need to learn to make lemonade.”  However, I want to encourage you that that lemonade does not have to be sour.  MADE for change will help you find the sweetener you need to make that lemonade not too sour and not too sweet.

Tonight, my first printed copies came in.  I recorded a video to share this moment with you:

Are you excited to read it?  There are many ways you can purchase MADE for Change!  You can purchase the ebook or the paperback here:

OR – for a limited time – you can purchase your very own autographed copy direct from me!

Go to this page to order: http://melissaruth.net/buy-autographed-copies/

 

Ode to my Viking

Many who are reading this don’t know me personally. Based on what you’ve read via social media, you may be tempted to think I’m this great woman who has persevered through many trials.
What you don’t know is what happens behind the scenes. You see, although I wish it weren’t so,  I am not all that amazing.  My family will testify to that fact. I tell more than I should, I spend too much time talking and not enough time listening and the list goes on and on and on.
Contrary to popular opinion, no one is perfect.that said, in the heat of attraction, one wants to believe the person they are with is perfect.
When I met my Viking, a little over 20 years ago, I was a mess. I wanted to believe I was a princess deserving of a prince but had accepted the fact that I was more like a fallen princess who deserves nothing.
I found peace and forgiveness in my Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ and had accepted that I was more than I felt I was and made the choice to trust God more than my own feelings or emotions.
Around this time, a man came into my life who saw the raw but healing holes within me and wanted to join me in the battles of life that we both knew were ahead of me.
He didn’t have to but he was the model of Christ to me.  He saw me as a forgiven woman, cleansed of all wrong doing, a woman who was imperfect but that he wanted to love and walk with thru the rest of our lives on this Earth.
We’ve gone through a lot since those days. 21 years later, I’m just as messed up…if not more and he still stands by me.
Sure, he would admit he isn’t perfect but he is kind and loving and forgiving even though I generally don’t deserve it. He chooses love and honor when he could rightfully choose anger and resentment.
Why am I sharing this with you?
Because I want you to know that true love isn’t all about the feelings you feel when you are with that person, or the belief that you are complete when with that person. True love is deciding to stay with that person even when they hurt you. It’s going into battle with them because you committed to be their partner for life.  It’s acknowledging everyone is human and allowed mistakes. It’s about forgiving and being willing to pick up that sword and shield for them no matter what.
I don’t deserve it but I’m ever so thankful this Thanksgiving for him and his choice to love me.

How I became an animal rescue enthusiast overnight

Before I begin…I do know this post is not the normal post for me on this site but, today, I am making an exception. I hope you will pardon the change for today….

It was supposed to be a normal Sunday.

A day where I would go to church and then come home and update the blog, develop my webinar content and write some more of my 3rd book. I had big plans of sitting at my computer most of the day getting caught up.  After all, the laundry was done, the groceries had been purchased and all the errands were complete.

All of that changed when my husband opened the back door to go to his truck.
I was still getting ready for church. I hadn’t fully decided on my outfit-though I was dressed-hadn’t done my makeup and hadn’t even brushed my hair when I heard him say, “Oh, Melisssaaaaaa.” The tone of voice was one I had heard before. It meant no good. I came down and he opened the back door to display a passel of stray puppies clearly hungry. 

3 puppies

“I found them eating out of our garbage.” He says. “I have to get to church. Maybe get them some water?”

So, I hiked up my skirt and ran back inside to find whatever I could to fill with water while he took off.
They drank like they had never drunk before. I went back in 3 times for more water.
Their tails were wagging and they were full of kisses.

puppies

And then, all of a sudden, I froze. A big ferocious looking dog comes bounding around the corner with determination. I wasn’t sure if I or the puppies were dead meat but I was pretty sure this was the end. She did NOT look friendly.

My mind scattered hundreds of ways. My eyes darted looking for ideas of where I could scurry. I cried out in my heart wishing David had not left but so glad the kids and our dog were safe inside. 

That lasted for less than 30 seconds..

Momma

That big dog quickly wagged her tail, kissing the pups and drinking the water with them. Momma bear was so thirsty and so glad to find her pups that I became an instant friend.
I breathed a sigh of relief. “Whew. Well hello momma.” I said as I petted her back and accepted her kisses.

“Now what?” I thought. “THREE puppies AND their momma?!?! I clearly can’t keep them. My landlord will have a fit…they will destroy the house for sure. I know. I’ll call the constable…”

Family pic of strays

Family pic of strays

I quickly placed the call for the Constable as all the puppies began to find some semblance of peace. They were all cuddled up against our garage door resting. Momma took a bit longer to calm down but was resting by the time the Constable showed.

He asked if I knew who they belonged to or had ever seen them around. He then asked if I was going to care for them until a shelter could be found. I informed him our dog wasn’t going to have any other dogs in her yard and we could not keep them. He said we would be lucky if anyone could come out on a Sunday but be would make some calls. 

A few minutes later he informed me they would be here by noon to pick them up and to feed them so they stayes out until animal control could pick them up.
So I did.
6 bowls later, they were full and happy.

I figured we could make it to noon. 

I posted lost animal notices on all the social media sites in case their owner was missing them. I scoured the posts of lost pets to see if anyone was missing a family of pups. No luck.
Noon came and went but no animal control came by. I called the dispatch for the constable but they laughed and said no one would pick them up on Sunday. I called the Houston SPCA and they informed me they don’t pick up pit bulls.
At this point, I’ve now been warned by many that pits don’t stand a chance in Houston. I’d also been covered in so many kisses and loves from these guys that I knew they needed a home. The momma even tried to climb in my daughter’s lap. (Note that these are actually NOT pits – but Mastiffs)

Ellie and Momma

The day got hotter and the pups became lethargic. I began to worry they were overheated. At one point, while i was on faceboom live showing the puppies, I realized one had climbed under a car and was not moving. His labored breathing concerned me. Another was weak and tired and not moving too great either so I opened my laundry room door in hopes to give them some cool air to refresh. I lost my laundry room at that point but within 30 minutes of dragging the weakesr one in there, they began to look like they were coming alive again. Even momma seemed like she was feeling better.

Pup Family Cooling Off

I contacted every shelter I was told about, scoured the web for rescues. But it was a Sunday…worse…the Sunday before 4th of July.

I posted and shared videos, I called more shelters.

Houston has hundreds of shelters and rescues. One, in particular has 800 animals. Another shared they are 3x over their limit. Most of the shelters here euthanize animals that may be hard to adopt (like pits) in order to make room for others coming in. Most strays get 3 days at the most before they are euthanized. Many rescues told me they were in dire need of foster families. My heart broke over and over to hear these stories. It became painfully clear they weren’t going anywhere for the night.
We rigged some guinea pig fencing across the driveway because I was concerned they might run if there were fireworks. I was also concerned because momma was protective of her pups and our neighbors had reported other strays in the neighborhood.

I sat outside with them in the heat, speaking softly and ensuring momma kept calm and they did not run out of food or water. I also didn’t want them to tear up anything but the puppies were too weak to care. 

When our dog (Mandy) would come out to go potty, they would watch her with sad eyes as if to say “We want to be on the other side of that fence too….” Only Momma wouldn’t let Mandy anywhere near the pups.

Watching Mandy

I went to bed after spending almost the entire day with those dogs unsure they would stay the night. I knew the makeshift fence I had wouldn’t hold them if they chose to go. I also knew by this point that their chances were limited.
I woke up this morning sunburnt and mosquito-bitten but knowing they would need sustenance and not wanting them to tear anything up as they became more awake, I ran downstairs.  

I took more pictures and posted more posts, sent more emails and went back to my desk to work. 

By 9 am, they were rambunctious and getting antsy.  They needed more than I could give them.  I called Animal Control to come pick them up in hopes they will find a home but I am so sad that I cannot more easily find their owners or a shelter. 

They all need flea baths and the pups look like they have worms … momma didn’t have a chip so no idea if her owners will find her but Animal Control was 100% positive that they were dumped.

Animal Control

Each of them are so precious that my heart breaks that they may not ever find a family to love them and take them in. My heart especially broke for momma who loves her pups and keeps them safe. They’ve had a tough time of it and I wish that wasn’t so.

So, this morning I’m praying for a miracle. That someone will see these adorable dogs and adopt them or foster them..that they will get the help they need…that they will find true love in the form of a family. Will you join me?

Update:  The shelter says they are Mastiffs.  Momma is less than 3 years old and the pups are rated as 13 weeks old. The owners may have been found.  I look forward to hearing they are reunited and seeing each of them again in their home.

Here are the links to their adoption pages at the shelter:

Momma: http://petharbor.com/pet.asp?uaid=HRRS.A487578

Brown boy pup: http://petharbor.com/pet.asp?uaid=HRRS.A487580

Brown girl pup: http://petharbor.com/pet.asp?uaid=HRRS.A487579

Runt girl pup: http://petharbor.com/pet.asp?uaid=HRRS.A487581

7/5/2017 update: shelter informed me that the owner called to claim them all. They expect him to be in today.  Impound fees are $40/pet and $10/day/pet with a requirement to get them all rabies shots and licensed within a certain period of time. If he picks them up today, that will be $280 at minimum.  I feel for him. Had I had any inkling that these were his dogs and how to get ahold of him, I would have kept them at the house a little longer.  

P.s.  They told me he claimed they are boxer mixes which I can kinda see when looking at pictures. I’m not a dog expert by any means so I really don’t know.

All the pups

Project Uncharted, Vikings of Faith, Change Hackers

Today I embraced a new title and experience – that of Radio Host.
Both were online. Both were dependent on technology working as we needed it to. As expected, we had some technical difficulties but we made it thru! It was a GREAT experience as my first radio show..
At one point, during the first show, Change Hackers, I began to wonder how we recover from the experience. My internet had lost the connection and then my phone connection was just not great. I seriously considered postponing the show but I knew two things:
1. There would be new problems next time.
2. The message I was there to share needed to be told. There were people out there who needed to hear it.
And so…we continued on. My guest, Jeff Wolfe, was a FANTASTIC guest, rolling with the challenges as they came and smiling the whole way through. If he was frustrated, he didn’t say a thing and he continued. Jeff took time out of his day at his company picnic to spend time sharing with us all about Project Uncharted – how it came to be, what it was and what it would become.
The second show, Vikings of Faith had different technical issues but we muddled our way through. Each show has a unique aspect to it. While Change Hackers focused on how we deal with change, Vikings of Faith focused on how we enable the warrior within us.
I said in both of my shows that I would update my website with how to contact Jeff.
You can contact him either at mailto:jeff@projectuncharted.comor by phone at 770-378-1510.
His website are: www.ProjectUncharted.com and www.flexmktg.com
Follow project uncharted on Instagram, twitter and facebook as well to get updates as they become available.
Jeff and I spoke during the second show about ways to pray for Jeff and Project Uncharted. You can see them below:
Pray for the Logistics
Stories to be selected
Stories to be told as God wants them to be shared
Stories will need video production in addition to other parts of the package
The right sponsors to sponsor the story development
Pray for Jeff
That he will respond correctly to God’s desire in the sharing of these stories
That he will always remember that the stories are not about him but about those sharing their stories and how God worked in their lives

Listen to Coach on Fire’s Change Hackers- Mastering Change in all areas of life! – Premier at http://tobtr.com/s/10019265. #BlogTalkRadio #ChangeHacker #CoachOnFire


Listen to 108 Praise Radio Vikings of Faith – Tapping into the Warrior in you – Premier at http://www.facebook.com/108praiseradio/videos/1638317399530867/  (show starts 15 minutes in) #VikingsOfFaith #108PraiseRadio

While these weren’t the best shows ever due to technical issues, it is my hope that you will enjoy the content that Jeff shared.  There will be two new shows coming in 2 weeks (guest still to be determined).

Join the following groups to stay up to date on the shows:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/ChangeHacker/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/VikingsOfFaith/

In the end, I suppose the best way to summarize this day is:

Please be patient with me.  God is not done with me yet. 🙂

Love Defined coming to Houston

If you are within driving distance of Houston, I would love it if you would consider joining us at this FREE conference at Spring Baptist Church – Klein campus. in Spring, TX.

Love Defined

This conference is for the single adult – no matter the age and the married couple – new or experienced.

The conference is a compilation of some of the best talks I’ve ever heard.

1. Have you ever wondered why some marriages make it and others don’t?

2.  Have you ever wondered just what IS the definition of love?

3.  Have you ever wondered why you struggle showing love to others like you want to?

4.  Or perhaps you just want to know the key to how to pray for your marriage.

There are so many other topics we will discuss at the conference so I hope you will join us there!

Check out the video below for more information:  https://youtu.be/Mq8UogsOD4o

p.s.  We are hoping to share this seminar at other churches in the area.  IF you are in the area and would like to arrange to have this conference at your church, contact us via email at info@melissaruth.net

Announcing: Renewing Your Viking

At least once a week, I meet a woman who is married and unhappy. When we start talking about my first book, “Choose Your Viking,” their eyes dart away and they say in this dreamy voice, “Oh I love that idea. I wish I had married a Viking….” Their voice trails off and they get this faraway look in their eyes as they think about all they would have done differently.

Renewing Your Viking is a journal that attempts to assist those wives in renewing their relationship with their Vikings.

Do you know someone who has struggled with their marriage?

Do you know someone who always complains about their husband?

Truth is, we all go through periods of our marriages where we wonder just what we’ve done to get stuck with “that man.”  We struggle to love that man because we find we really just don’t like them anymore.  Why is that?  Well, there are many reasons…the journal is here to remind you why you married him, to remind him why you married him and to renew your vows between each other as you continue to fight in the battles life brings your way.

Pick up Renewing Your Viking in paperback for yourself and a friend at:  https://www.createspace.com/6995921

Find it on Amazon.com at: http://amzn.to/2nTdUnR

 

Renewing Your Viking

These past few weeks, I’ve been working on a little journal for married women.

The journal is presenting some technical issues prior to release but I’m so excited about it that I’m determined to work through those technical issues to get this journal released asap.

Why?  What is in this little journal that makes me so excited?

Nearly every week, I meet a woman who wishes she had married a Viking instead of the prince charming she thought she married.  I try to sit with each one of these women I meet and go through a process I’ve developed to help them find their love again but, so often, I just don’t get the option to walk them through this process completely.  In addition, I’ve learned that, while the process helps, they need to put the concepts into action in order for them to get the full effect.  Renewing Your Viking is a small journal which allows them to do just that…I’m so excited!

 

Welcome!

Recently, I had the opportunity to share more about Choose Your Viking and the concepts in it via a few media sources.  I am beyond honored to be asked to join these amazing media outlets to share about my book and future plans.

If you have visited here due to hearing me on one of those media sources, welcome!

If you are just now hearing about these interviews, feel free to listen to them by going to the following link:

http://melissaruth.net/melissa-ruth-media/

 

Author in Business Book Tour

 

 

 

 

If money was not a barrier, I’d travel to every part of the world, sitting down with each of you to encourage and inspire you to see the world as an open book waiting for you to fill the pages.

If time was not a barrier, I’d  walk with you on your journey as your own personal cheerleader, cheering you on every step of the way.   I’d help you see the positive of the battle you are facing currently.  I’d help you to see you can get past this horrible tragedy. I’d walk with you day by day, framing your experiences of the day in a positive light.

If physics was not a barrier, I’d sit on your shoulder whispering God’s promises in your ear so you would never forget how much He loves you even when it feels like life is out to get you.

However, the truth is money, time and physics are all barriers to my desires.  This, however, doesn’t stop me from trying.  It is largely why I wrote Choose Your Viking and why I continue to write my books.  You see I cannot physically meet each of you or sit on your shoulder or spend personal time coaching each of you but I can write my books, put them out there and share them with you.

It is also why I am honored to be  part of the Author in Business Book Tour and am begging you to come.  It isn’t often that you can actually have personal time with authors who write their books.  This is an exclusive moment for you to listen to, speak with and be inspired by some amazing authors who feel the same way I do.  They want to invest in you!  So, what are you waiting for? Register today for the AIB book tour!  It’s tomorrow, January 14th at 3pm to the Microsoft store in the Houston Galleria mall.  Register at http://bit.ly/aibhouston.  Space is limited to be sure to register immediately.

If you aren’t available but know people nearby, please feel free to share.

While you’re at it, let me know you are coming!  I want to be watching for you!

Post on my Facebook page, send me a tweet or Instagram comment!

p.s.  If you just want to buy my book, you can buy it by clicking on the following links:

click here for the paperback
or click below for the eBook:

 

You are invited to my first ever book signing!

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